anons, serious question…..kinda hurting right now.

We all know the internet and all the 'social media apps' were not created for fun, happy purposes.

We all know that pron and dating sites aren't as innocent as they seem….

Sites like Ashley Madison were created on purpose by [them] to ruin families; relationships, ect.

If you were to find out that your wife (or husband) of 25 years, after being through hell together, and 4 kids, was "meeting" others online on their phones, and having mutual sex (ex: masturbating to eachother through some Zoom app or Facetime app……

would you consider that cheating??? How would it make you feel? Someone you have spent the majority of your life with…..

Is it the same as cheating, if they only chat through text, and film themselves masturbating….and if it was MULTIPLE people over YEARS???

The only reason they had to come clean with me is because they screwed up, and did it with someone (fake) who tried to blackmail them for money??

Sorry, I am really sorry…would never post this EVER or ask this while Q is posting…..and I know there is a lot of heavy shit happening right now…..

But I have no one to turn to to ask about this.

I don't know what to do or to even feel how I am feeling right now. Years ago, I had a dumb "text flirting relationship" with a coworker that they found out about and I have paid ten fold for that. Yes it was wrong, and should not have happened. But there was NEVER any naked online shit…..ever. And NEVER ACTUAL physical cheating or anything.

But now when I bring up what I recently found out, I have to hear about WHAT I DID.

I am not ever normally a pussy. EVER. I never act like I am right now in this post….just need advice, as I am now so beyond hurt and sad and frustrated and angry…..and punching the bag in my basement is not helping like I thought it would.

We are talking 25 (really 28 yrs total) of my life.

I hate the internet. And although they "promised" they would STOP, I no longer trust a fucking word they say. I just want off this ride right now. I know there are real anons out there who can understand my rambling. What would you do or how would you feel?

Again, none of this would have happened if it wasn't so EASY to do this on the phone in your bathroom while your spouse was in the other fucking room (which yes, did happen).

Not to be a faggot asshole, but I guess I need something….just not sure what.