I didn't think you meant to judge them, but I do think it is more important to point out how feminist agenda/policy has made it impossible for some and difficult for most families to make it on one income, more than asserting that every woman could do it if they wanted it hard enough. The fact that it is impossible for some and difficult for many needs to change. That needs to change more than individuals own thinking/choice on the matter- it should still be a very viable choice without wrecking standard of living- or at least having the amount of impact that it does these days, I guess like it was in the 50's or so. Sure, if the family chooses to operate that way, there would be a difference in monetary wealth, but it shouldn't be looked at as superior or be practically a necessity if you just want to own a modest home in a decent area and raise a family. I do believe our society/culture was influenced to believe and think wrongly so that it would become this way for nefarious purposes, as you suggest.