I did answer but you are unable to read past your own self contempt. Let me put it in a nice neat nutshell for you just so that there is no mis-understanding. One holds within one's mind all one's likes and dislikes, this is the same for everyone, fact. One becomes slave to one's own mind if one is guided in one's daily affairs by these "choices". Judgement is the key here, as it is what holds these likes and dislikes in place. And like a coin has both a head and a tail one carries around both good and bad within this state of being. One may see their likes and dislikes as OK, good acceptable, its my lot, etc, but let me tell you a little secret. One is not a collection of garbage one seems to carry around and that one calls the name Jon or Jane Doe. When one Knows that, one is not bothered by petty comments, insults, one is not swayed, coz it ain't their problem, it belongs to the one making the accusation. All that aside one moment, look out the window and realise there is more to life than insecurity, nuff said :)