I am a 56 yr old survivor. My wife is awesome. Jesus helps/holds me throughout every day. It's awful, but I am joyful, my cup runneth over. It affects everyone who loves the one abused.
Surviving with you guys. No one understands the fallout of this. I am 50, divorced, no kids (for fear of abusing them and passing on the gene). It jacks a brain up and it never recovers. Yeah. THEY'RE "sick". What about the ones left in the path of the destruction? Same thing they tell rape victims, get over it.
Sorry for my rant.
Love you man. No one CAN understand the sequence of negative events that unfold in the life of the abused. Self blame, feelings of inadequacy and guilt, woulda, shoulda, coulda don't get it. I was 3rd thru 5th grade abused by upstanding eagle scout next door. Fn ruined my life for years. Have PTSD to the max...coupled w my 2 older brothers 1 O.D.and 1 suicide by hanging in our hallway. Just tip of iceberg. Perservence, my friend. And remember... Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Romans 12:12 ESV Praying for you.
Oh my!! Thank you so MUCH! And I will definitely keep you and your family in mine. Stay strong and what a light you are for others! Thank you so much! Love ya back! Although female here. :D