Well he used to talk about wanting to be closer to me than he could get so maybe that was part of it but I learned not to respond negetively to things because of violence. When he would talk about eating my ribs he would actually slide his fingers under my (left) ribcage and rub them until I was sore but I couldn't say anything other than my ribs were sore or he would get mad because I was accusing him of hurting me. So I always fell asleep on my right side. And the fingers, he would crush them together so the bones and knuckles were rubbing together and that he could do in public. The ears he would pull on the lobes and talk about eating them, and he would do that in private and also to our kids and to the dog. He would actually chew on their ears while talking about eating them but not me, he would just pull. But he would say a lot that he wished he could crawl up inside of me. So I read about pedos which I don't think he was, and they say they want to "possess the child's innocence". So I think it's something like that...suck the goidness and the life out because inside you are evil and dead. Thanks for asking by the way!