I think thats part of the twist that Hollywood puts on things: suffering through sacrifice for our "passions" as a virtue, when truly, the essense of sacrifice and suffering is to be in SERVICE to others, particularly those that cannot help themselves. If you rely on "passion", which in my opinion is just your Ego with a massive hard-on, then pretty soon it becomes impossible tell whats what. How often do Marriages based on passionate lust masquerading as Love work out?
True sacrifice, is about suffering for the sake of others, putting their interests before our own (because we see ourselves in them).
Most parents can attest to this.
Simply suffering for personal gain is masturbation. Nobody said fapping is bad, and yea it can feel pretty good, but its not going to get you anywhere.. camgirls not withstanding.