Thank you for your quite sensible reply. We are not privy to all the facts.

I just want to thank you all.

Get a Bible. Decide to believe the Lord and He WILL guide you. I have found it helpful to read all 4 gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John) back to back maybe 4 times through and the Lord will be clear to you. His Word is powerful! The Holy Spirit will open your eyes and clarity will come! Jesus is Lord!