Our stories are amazingly similar, anon. Yes, there is only a tiny shred of hope for him, but anon will continue to force uncomfortable things into his face, because it is his only hope, and it is my duty to do so. He does not get a pass to die in peace. He desperately needs to acknowledge the truth, repent, and beg God for forgiveness. This applies also to the dozens of others anon mentioned. Anon and wife are at ground zero of all this, in the entire world. 2 extended families, 90% lost and desperately proud of it. Thank God for her. As the Proverb says, her worth is far above rubies.