i'm sorry that's been your experience, anon. we're living in dark times. i think what you're looking for is brotherly love, not politeness. the ability to care for another as yourself. maybe that's more rare than i originally claimed, but then again i'm a chronic optimist. we have to be the light we wish to see in the world and follow the golden rule. that's the only way things will change - let us set a good example.