They are a eusocial endoparasite.
You'd have as much luck as getting a yellow crazy ant to side with a grasshopper.
Enjoy being subverted. They will move in, pretend to be your friend, and next thing you know they will declare themselves as the group and you as an outsider. I have been fighting for 8 years, this has happened whenever I welcomed any of them. They will always put their tribe first, if they say they aren't it is a lie meant to gain your trust, even if they do not know they are lying. Their culture and genetics makes them all sleeper agents, that is their survival strategy. You simply need to accept it. Or learn the hard way, after losing much ground.