Validate the fear first, then give the child a sense of control. Telling a child "there's nothing to be scared of" often backfires — it can make them feel dismissed and stop sharing their worries. Instead, acknowledge how scary it feels, then gently reinforce safety.
Practical strategies that work well:
Use "monster spray" or a charm. Fill a spray bottle with water and call it monster repellent; let the child spray dark corners. Alternatively, sprinkle glitter on a stuffed animal and pretend it's a protective charm. This taps into a child's magical thinking and gives them an active role.
Do a brief, one-time check together. Look under the bed or in the closet with your child, but don't make it a nightly ritual — that can reinforce the idea monsters might be there.
Add a nightlight and a comfort object. A dim light (non-blue) and a favorite blanket or stuffed animal provide a tangible sense of security.
Make the dark fun during the day. Play flashlight tag, build a fort, or have a glow-stick dance party so the dark stops feeling threatening.
Teach simple calming tools. Practice slow breathing (in for 4, out for 7) and positive self-talk like "I am safe" during the day so they're ready at night.
Limit scary media. Keep frightening shows, movies, and stories out of the picture, as they feed the fear.
Praise bravery. Celebrate small steps — "I'm so proud you stayed in your room" — to build confidence over time.
The key principle: take the fear seriously, don't argue logic into a child, and gradually help them feel in charge of their own safety.