>>8665169 (LB)
I understand, Anon, but in a way, the particulars of the trauma do not matter. My spouse was severely abused as a child with no conscious recollection and did a fairly good job at getting through life with the unconscious secret remaining hidden. (That is if we ignore some major red flag episodes, which s/he was all too happy to dismiss.) The mind does split off from itself as a survival strategy. It's not their fault. Seemingly "normal" adult unless you lived w/it and witnessed the self-abuse, the peculiarities, the talking head from which a body dangles. It's called disassociation and it ranges from mere highway hypnosis to trauma startle reflex to certain stimuli, to PTSD, to Complex PTSD, all the way to MPD (Multiple Personality Disorder) now known as Disassociative Identity Disorder (DID). I am not a clinician, but with what I've been through with my spouse, I'd be willing to wager your spouse was sexually abused. She's not at all alone, if so. Regardless, above is the best place in the U.S. that I am aware of and I liked that I was allowed to accompany my spouse and debrief/relax after each day's session. It's not cheap, but honestly, I'd take out a second mortgage if I had to. Never forget adults who were abused as children are still abused children inside. They deserve our best effort, too. If you love her, get her the help she needs. It will be cathartic for both of you.
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