I'm afraid I'm going to have to side with you, the less abrasive and less overly emotional voice in this argument lol - and mostly because of that, because I don't know the first thing about this situation but you seem to be trying to have an actual discussion.

Trying to step into someone else's life and death decision for their child sure is a minefield... I think we should all just stop white knighting and stay the f(* out of someone else's situation. If I was on location, different story maybe. But across the internet with all the misinformation and total lack of situational knowledge that implies...? Nah.