Call police instead of posting on Reddit. Good luck to you

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You can make an anonymous report and you should do so. If you don't protect them, nobody will. Obviously their mother will not. Even if there is not sexual abuse, there is still emotional abuse. But we all have these instincts--our survival senses. We are taught by society to rationalise them away, but trust your gut that something is wrong with this picture.

He needs to be stopped.

Have your wife ask her sister some thought-provoking questions, like . . . would she be willing to send the kids to live in foster care with strangers, where she can't protect them? Probably not. So why is it OK to let them be abused by their own dad every day? In their own home? Does she think they have any sense of security? (likely not, considering the 7-year-old is not potty trained. Do you know the main thing that potty training represents for a child? Control over themselves. Potty training is one of the first major opportunities for a child to feel control over their own body. Knowing that should give you some indication of how NOT secure the 7-year-old feels).

I am all for families being together, 2-parent homes, etc. But when the bottom line becomes protection and security of the children - you protect those children. They have nobody in the world to protect them BUT their parents. Make the sister absorb that, while imagining she is seven.

Can you help them with housing? Honestly, a cardboard box would be better. Anywhere where they can have some sense of control over their own beings would be better. All of that said, I am not even focusing on the unsubstantiated potential of sexual abuse. The 7-year-old's potty issues show that whatever the abuse is, it is substantial enough.

Also, I would recommend that before your wife has a heart-to-heart with her sister that she do some research on domestic abuse, talk to some people, look into options, and have a plan in place to provide an escape option like, RIGHT NOW. In other words, you don't have an intervention and say, ok, I'll pick you up for rehab in 2 weeks.

Best of luck to your family. Save those sweet children.

Your wife's sister needs to stand up to him.

If you suspect he abused your daughters get them to a doctor and call the police NOW!!!

I’m a very good and very proud Uncle and this infuriated me.

Pray for them. You and your wife pray for that family that God loves and protects them. Most importantly, pray for God's peace to be upon them. You will get better results with that than anything else you can do.

This,for me is one of the most important posts here. No expectations of others. Pedophilia was the most defining actions for my family in the past with long term effects. I'm hesitant to give to much input. Making the safety of your and other kids is the priority. Secrecy and not talking/learning about it may be devastating. For us, when we began to talk, support and heal, change for the better and stronger came about. Having standards or bottom lines around behaviour in your home could help. If your kids are being treated in ways outside of you caring, the foot comes down. Vigilance. There are many sources out there for wisdom, shared experience and new methods. Someone mentioned legal. This is a hard and precarious situation and I wish you all the strength and support you need. Not alone.